rebecca's selective memory

tgs at tgs at
Wed Nov 9 22:31:55 MST 1994

Now it's all beginning to come back to me.  You said absolutely NOTHING
in that original post about men calling feminists liberal and bourgeois.
What you said was, after the remark about the problem here as elsewhere being
to many male contributants, that "most men" are sexist, etc.

This in itself is a SEXIST generalization.  It is prejudiced and biased.
I suggest that much of what you interpret as sexist from men on the question
of feminism is a justifiable resistance to your own particular petty
moralistic version of feminism, a version in which the problem with
leftist groups is
that the men contribute too much, that men can
never contribute too little because they're inevitably sexist, that all
left groups are all automatically "male-
identified" (unless of course they happen to agree with everything YOU say),
that any and all integration = tokenism, etc..

Are you building socialism-feminism, or do you simply go around sowing
discord and hostility between the genders?

You've got me a little steamed right now. Let me take a few deep  breaths.

Rebecca,I say this with as much friendship as I can muster right now with you.
Let's skip the label liberal, and all that other crap, it just gets in
the way. I just want to talk as straightforwardly as I can.

 Capitalist society/patriarchy breeds hostility between the sexes.
No one is free of it. I've got it, we all have it, female and male.
It's not a sin; it's an objective reality which divides us.
You don't get rid of it by blaming it all on the opposite sex,and then accusing
them of sexism when they to fail to agree.
 The best thing is to recognize it within yourself, first,
rather than project it upon the other sex as their biological estate--
or confounding women's oppression with class exploitation.


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