How to Handle Flames Thrown in Your Direction (was Re:Michael Perelman on pen-l)
furuhashi.1 at SPAMosu.edu
Thu Dec 21 10:27:32 MST 2000
>May I, nonetheless, counsel the maintenance of a stiff upper lip, so
>to speak? Do not turn the other cheek by any means, but never reduce
>yourself to the level of baiters by responding in kind to attacks,
>ridicules, slanders, etc. The strategy here is to let those who
>attack you _make asses of themselves as much as they want_, while
>_you_ remain on the moral, political, & aesthetic high ground,
>skewering them with irreproachable propriety all the same. Stay
>cool, remain unflappable.
>While this strategy sort of works in some cases, I want to indicate what is
>at stake, if Henry is goaded into a frenzy or out burst or intensified
>emotional state, is Henry wrong?
No, it's not "wrong" to be emotionally affected (sometimes you can't
help it either). The thing is, though, that's exactly how those who
commit political-baiting, racist insinuations, sexist attacks, etc.
_want_ you to respond: become emotionally affected & "lose it." Why
give them satisfaction?
Refuse to respond in kind, and the other side will nearly inevitably
"lose it." Works at least in cyber-space, if not in the real world.
In the real world, more aggressive self-defense is sometimes called
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