[Marxism] High above the W. Va miners...........

Jon Flanders jonathan.flanders at verizon.net
Thu Jan 5 14:47:03 MST 2006

The New York Times

October 17, 2004
Hilary Geary and Wilbur Ross Jr.

ANYONE wishing to know Hilary Geary's take on life need only gaze at the
inscription on a needlepoint pillow in the living room of her home in
Southampton, N.Y. It reads: "Eat, Drink and Remarry." 

Ms. Geary, 54, a society writer for Quest magazine, is the kind of
person who does not sound corny saying "Oh, golly." Her subjects tend to
be her family and friends. "They trust me," she said.

She met Wilbur L. Ross Jr., an investment banker, at a party given by
Terry Allen Kramer, a Broadway producer, in 1995, in the months before
her first husband, John W. Geary II, died. Mr. Ross, a bankruptcy
specialist working for the Rothschild family, was so adept at getting
his way that he was known as a troubled company's "worst nightmare."

But it was his date — Betsy McCaughey, then lieutenant governor of New
York State — who left an impression on Ms. Geary. "She was so famous,"
Ms. Geary said. Ms McCaughey was to become Mr. Ross's second wife that
year. Ms. Geary later dated Alfonse M. D'Amato and married Peter Green,
a British investment banker. 

It was not until two years ago, when seated beside each other at a party
given by Amanda Haynes-Dale, that Ms. Geary and Mr. Ross became
acquainted. By then, Ms. Geary and her second husband had split up, and
so had Mr. Ross and the lieutenant governor. "I thought they'd have a
tremendous amount in common," said Ms. Haynes-Dale, a friend of both.
"New York. Palm Beach. Southampton. Both love going out every night." 

Mr. Ross had left the Rothschilds for a more lucrative career as an
investor in the assets of bankrupt companies. He also had become an
influential industrialist. (A billionaire, Mr. Ross now controls
one-fifth of the country's steel production and has interests in
textiles and coal. Business columnists and friends sometimes compare his
influence to J. P. Morgan's.) 

After that party, Mr. Ross sent Ms. Geary an e-mail message "with a very
precise intelligent answer" to a financial question she had posed. She
was impressed. Mr. Ross, in turn, took note of the invitation he
received to a dinner party at Ms. Geary's house a few days later. "I
thought I must have made a tremendous impression," he said. Later, he
said, he learned that society hostesses "always need single men."
Nevertheless, Mr. Ross, 66, said it was a match he pursued as
tenaciously as any deal. She brought Mr. Ross into her social circle,
which includes involvement with the Central Park Conservancy and the
Boys Club of New York. 

"Often, a woman is the one who organizes one's social life," Ms. Geary
said. "The man who is working hard does not have time to pay attention
to that."

Her influence could be seen in his wardrobe. "I've been redecorated,"
Mr. Ross said last week as he was showing off a baby-blue Hermès tie
that they picked out in Paris. 

About 40 guests looked on as they were married on Oct. 9 by the glow of
the Tiffany windows of St. Andrew's Dune Church in Southampton. The
bride wore a gold suit by Michael Kors that shimmered in the afternoon
light. She was escorted down the aisle by her two sons, Ted and Jack.
Alex Wilbur, 5, Mr. Ross's grandson, carried the ring.

At a wedding supper in the bride's home, the tables were adorned with
white hydrangea and bars of soap labeled Vote.

A larger party for 300 friends was given on Monday at the Rainbow Room
in New York. The crowd, which included Carl C. Icahn, Georgette
Mosbacher and Arnold Scaasi, topped off a dinner of lobster and filet
mignon with banana splits. "God is in the details," said the bride, who
rented ice cream parlor dishes for their authenticity. 

Ms. Mosbacher spoke for many guests when she said: "When men are as
accomplished as Mr. Ross, and have built what he's built, they don't
have a lot of time to enjoy it. Hilary will open his eyes to that life,
to the glamour. She rounds his life out." 

Whether Mr. Ross will be able to impart his negotiating skill to his
wife remains to be seen. In a toast, he reported dryly, that when they
went to buy the ring, they "only paid a little over retail." 

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